Loving What Is

I am here again tonight, and I feel a lot better about many things.

I am reading a new book called Loving What Is:  Four questions that can change your life. I am learning that "what is", is the truth about the situation; not what I think it ought to be: should be.

There is, of course, grief and the stages of which, run their course as they see fit... in their own time. For this, I remain gentle with myself. I feed myself good food, put myself to bed, allow laying around and watching old movies all day if that is what I need. I am kind to me.

But then there are other issus. And there is the fact that "we are disturbed not by what happens to us, but by our thoughts about what happens"... and "as the thinking changes, the problems, disappear". The idea is to ask certain questions to "reveal where our thinking isn't true for us" for "when we believe our thoughts instead of what is really true for us, we experience the kinds of emotional distres that we call suffering."

"What's true is always what's happening, not the story about what should be happening."

I have been doing alot of mind churning concerning what should be happening... not just today, or even in the past 6 or 7 weeks, but also way before then. I have written before that I don't control the world around me, and that causes me distress and pain. It is those thoughts - of thinking what should be happening - that is causing me a large amount of the pain. It's the thoughts!!!! Wow! Light bulb. And I am surely tired of the pain.

So, I am on the journey to learn how to love what is.

I will see where this lesson leads as I read the book and write and learn and try.

Namaste